The Fear of Missing Out, is one of our generations biggest upsets. It is the overcoming feeling that you are missing out on a being somewhere other than where you are or missing out on having something other than what you already have. It is the feeling that you are missing out on something in your life that would make it better.
Think about it.
We are constantly looking at pictures and videos of friends, family and other acquaintances doing things, subconsciously one-upping each other. The photos and videos we post online for all to see, are always from the times we are having the best time of our lives. Vacations and celebrations, filled with laughter and joy.
In no way, I am saying that we shouldn’t do this because I do it also. If you scroll through my Instagram feed, you will see pictures filled with a larger than life smile, bright colours and photos from all my proudest moments.
The point I am trying to make is we need to take a step back and stop comparing ourselves to others. We need to stop lusting over other people’s lives and make our own lives one to remember. We need to find a job that we love and enjoy going to. We need to put down our phones and enjoy the moment before it’s over. We need to put value in our friendships, instead of screen time. We need to realize our worth is not based on the number of likes we get or followers we have.
I want to challenge each of you to do something.
Every morning for a week, write down three things you hope that will happen that day. At the end of the day, I want you to write down three things you are grateful for, and one thing you wish you would have done that could have improved this day.
In doing this simple activity, you are doing three things. You are putting intentions into your day of what you want to happen and by doing this, you are setting yourself up to be successful because the thought is now in your head. The next thing you are doing is concentrating on the things you have to be grateful for or positive things that happened within your day, instead of the negatives. I find we often (myself included) concentrate on the negative parts of our days, instead of the positive. Let’s change this mind set. Lastly, we are leaving room for improvement. No one is perfect and no day is ever perfect. By writing one thing we want to improve on, we are leaving room for growth and leaving space and acceptance for imperfections.
I think that this feeling of FOMO is one of biggest driving forces behind the anxiety I often get. I get stuck in the mindset that I need to constantly be doing something, posting something and talking to someone, to be successful day to day. If I can change my mindset and focus on what I am doing that very second, instead of concentrating on what I SHOULD be doing, or what I need to do next, I think I will take a huge weight off my shoulders.
I think social media is both a blessing and a curse on our society. We have access to more than ever before. But sometimes this transparency can do more damage than good.