Opinions

I read a quote the other day, and it talked about the need for alone time. The need to be by one’s self to refresh, digest and formulate opinions. In our society, we are constantly influenced by those around us, even when we think we aren’t. People’s opinions are constantly filling our heads through social media forms like, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, also through news sources on television and in the news paper and then there’s also advertisements that are pushed in front of our faces all the time. Everywhere we look, people are trying to convince us to think, act, and be a certain way.

Now more than ever alone time crucial to build our own thoughts and opinions. In this society, do you think it’s possible to build our own opinions without being influenced by those around us? With our cellphones being glued to our hands and thoughts always being pushed into our heads, the thought of unbiased opinions sounds like a hard concept to grasp.

I believe that in life there is never just one way to look at something, even though sometimes our society tries to convince us otherwise. I challenge each of you to form your own opinions on things. If something doesn’t seem right or correct to you, dare to think outside of the box. Sit in silence every once in a while. Let your thoughts form on their own. Decide if  you agree or disagree with what is being taught and told to you. It’s people in this world that choose to create their own ideas. thoughts and opinions that make a difference.  Remember though, to be open to all the opinions around you as well. If you are expecting people to be willing and open to your opinions, then you must treat their’s the same.

Have a great weekend loves!

Ash

 

2016-it was only as bad as you make it.

Over and over again, 2016 has been deemed the worst year ever.  At first, I thought it was only me after suffering from another seizure, losing my licence for another 6 months and having my heart stomped on by one too many boys, but supposedly I was wrong. Over and over again, funny memes, articles, tweets, Instagrams and lengthy facebook statuses, have named 2016 overall just bad.  The more people continue to say this, the more I turn around and look at my 2016.  Was it really as bad as I think? Was it really the worst year EVER?

I wanted to start off this coming year by writing a lengthy post about my resolutions and plan to create a better me in 2017.  I wanted to have inspirational quotes, to also help inspire all you to do the same.  You know what, while doing so, not only did I find some Ashley worthy quotes, I came to the realization that 2016 wasn’t all bad and I don’t really need a full makeover.

This year I learnt a lot about myself, a whole lot in fact. I learnt that saying ‘no’ to people won’t make them hate you.  I learnt that asking for help is perfectly okay. I learnt that no matter what, the people that want to be in your life, will be, no matter how busy you both are. I grew stronger friendships with so many life changing people. I told people my story and changed many lives by doing so and I shared my feelings, saving myself and the other people a lot of time if the feelings were not reciprocated. Good things happened in 2016 and bad things happened, but I think it’s important to learn your lessons from the bad things and concentrate on building on the good things.

Going into 2017, I have a lot I want to accomplish. I want to focus on myself and my dreams, and let the rest fall into place around me.  I read a quote the other day, that I really liked:

“When you are torn between 2 choices, always pick the one that will make the best story ” 

Elephant Journal

When I travel, this is how my mind thinks, and this year I want to start living my day to day life like this as well.

I also found this video that really made me think about how much we share on social media, and I think is another thing I am going to work on in 2017.

3 Things to Keep Private

The last thing I want to share is some positive things that happened in the world in 2016. We live in a society that concentrates on negativity. Our newspapers and news stations are filled with tragedies, deaths, disasters etc. and people often forget that good things happen every day and good people still exist.

Dear world, I wasn’t all bad. Signed, 2016 (Thank you to my friend Kyle for sharing this!)

I hope you all find happiness, love and adventure in your 2017s and you are able to look back on this past year and remember the good things that happened and learn from the bad things.
So much love and positive vibes to you all!

🙂

Ash

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**really cool idea to help you concentrate on the positive things that happen in your life throughout the year! 🙂

Interview with an 11th Grader

**Happy Tuesday everyone. I was recently asked by one of my past students if she could interview me for her grade 11 English class.  I thought her questions were awesome and decided to share them and my responses to them with you all!
I hope you’re all having a great week!

-A

1. What are your aspirations in life? And Why?

Since I was young, my aspiration in life has always been to make a positive difference in the world. I wanted to somehow make at least one person’s life better. I honestly don’t know why this has always been my goal, I think since a young age I saw how being kind to someone made me feel so much better than being rude. I always liked when I knew I was able to make someone’s day better.

2. What is the importance of family to you?

The concept of family has always been very important to me. Unfortunately, from a young age I grew up without a close relationship with my mom, but I was lucky enough to grow up very close to my sister and dad.

3. As a child what were your goals? Have you met any from that period of time?

I think; as I have gotten older my goals have changed. When I was younger, my goals were more egocentric and short term, for example, I want to get a good grade on the next math test. Now my goals are a lot more long term and altruistic, for example, I really want to go and volunteer in Cambodia next year. I am lucky enough to have accomplished a lot of my goals I had made for myself, like dance professionally abroad and travel to certain places in the world, but now I set goals that not only benefit myself, but also benefit others.

4. Has there been any challenges in your life, that had a major impact on you? Have you overcome any? If so how?

Through high school, I suffered from high-functioning depression and self-injury, but I always had a mindset that I wasn’t allowed to asked for help or show weakness because people would view me differently. After graduating, I developed an eating disorder, which I suffered from in silence for far too long. Overcoming these things has made me an incredibly strong person. I use these past experiences as motivation to help youth understand that mental illness is not a weakness. I want to help people know that they are not alone and that it is perfectly fine to ask for help.

5. Do you set daily goals for yourself? If so what are they?

I like to set weekly goals for myself. I am a very active person, so making time to go to the gym and eating properly are very important to me. Also since my life is so crazy busy, trying to balance school, multiple jobs, and extra activities, I always try to listen to what my mind is telling me. If I start to feel overwhelmed, I will take a step back and analyze the things that I need to do first and then go from there. I no longer have a problem admitting that I sometimes need extra help, or need to take personal time for myself.

6. What helps you stay positive when you are at your worst?

I think looking back on where I have come from to where I am now, helps me stay positive and stay on track. Surrounding myself with positive people, taking personal time to recharge and asking for help when I need it, are all things that help me stay positive and healthy.

7. Is there a person who has a major influence in your life? If so, how have they impacted you?

Though I don’t have a very close relationship with my mom, she has always been a huge motivation in my life. When I was younger I remember seeing a light in her that many people see in me. Since her light no longer shines every day, I try to shine mine extra bright for her.

8. What keeps you inspired to stay positive, and motivated every day?

The people around me help me stay on track and remain positive. I know I have many younger girls that I teach and work with that look up to me and they are a constant reminder of how my positivity can inspire and help other people around me. Sometimes simply telling my story and being open about my past struggles are enough to make a difference.

It’s All About The Vibes.

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I am such a huge believer that you get back what you put into our universe. If you’re a happy, positive person, those are the people and vibes you’re going to attract to yourself.  I’m not saying that life isn’t going to happen, that you’re not going to have a seizure, total your car and crash your bike all in a week (true story). But with keeping your chin up, and smiling through the rough patches, you will attract the people in your life that belong to be there. People that will help get through the negative times. And the people that will always push you to be the best version of yourself.

I am constantly praised for being a positive person by people around me, or sometimes by people I don’t even know. Thank you to everyone who reaches out to me. Motivating and putting smiles on people’s faces is all I can ask for in life and I hope I can continue to do this.

Have a great week everyone!!

-A