Opinions

I read a quote the other day, and it talked about the need for alone time. The need to be by one’s self to refresh, digest and formulate opinions. In our society, we are constantly influenced by those around us, even when we think we aren’t. People’s opinions are constantly filling our heads through social media forms like, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, also through news sources on television and in the news paper and then there’s also advertisements that are pushed in front of our faces all the time. Everywhere we look, people are trying to convince us to think, act, and be a certain way.

Now more than ever alone time crucial to build our own thoughts and opinions. In this society, do you think it’s possible to build our own opinions without being influenced by those around us? With our cellphones being glued to our hands and thoughts always being pushed into our heads, the thought of unbiased opinions sounds like a hard concept to grasp.

I believe that in life there is never just one way to look at something, even though sometimes our society tries to convince us otherwise. I challenge each of you to form your own opinions on things. If something doesn’t seem right or correct to you, dare to think outside of the box. Sit in silence every once in a while. Let your thoughts form on their own. Decide if  you agree or disagree with what is being taught and told to you. It’s people in this world that choose to create their own ideas. thoughts and opinions that make a difference.  Remember though, to be open to all the opinions around you as well. If you are expecting people to be willing and open to your opinions, then you must treat their’s the same.

Have a great weekend loves!

Ash

 

Interview with an 11th Grader

**Happy Tuesday everyone. I was recently asked by one of my past students if she could interview me for her grade 11 English class.  I thought her questions were awesome and decided to share them and my responses to them with you all!
I hope you’re all having a great week!

-A

1. What are your aspirations in life? And Why?

Since I was young, my aspiration in life has always been to make a positive difference in the world. I wanted to somehow make at least one person’s life better. I honestly don’t know why this has always been my goal, I think since a young age I saw how being kind to someone made me feel so much better than being rude. I always liked when I knew I was able to make someone’s day better.

2. What is the importance of family to you?

The concept of family has always been very important to me. Unfortunately, from a young age I grew up without a close relationship with my mom, but I was lucky enough to grow up very close to my sister and dad.

3. As a child what were your goals? Have you met any from that period of time?

I think; as I have gotten older my goals have changed. When I was younger, my goals were more egocentric and short term, for example, I want to get a good grade on the next math test. Now my goals are a lot more long term and altruistic, for example, I really want to go and volunteer in Cambodia next year. I am lucky enough to have accomplished a lot of my goals I had made for myself, like dance professionally abroad and travel to certain places in the world, but now I set goals that not only benefit myself, but also benefit others.

4. Has there been any challenges in your life, that had a major impact on you? Have you overcome any? If so how?

Through high school, I suffered from high-functioning depression and self-injury, but I always had a mindset that I wasn’t allowed to asked for help or show weakness because people would view me differently. After graduating, I developed an eating disorder, which I suffered from in silence for far too long. Overcoming these things has made me an incredibly strong person. I use these past experiences as motivation to help youth understand that mental illness is not a weakness. I want to help people know that they are not alone and that it is perfectly fine to ask for help.

5. Do you set daily goals for yourself? If so what are they?

I like to set weekly goals for myself. I am a very active person, so making time to go to the gym and eating properly are very important to me. Also since my life is so crazy busy, trying to balance school, multiple jobs, and extra activities, I always try to listen to what my mind is telling me. If I start to feel overwhelmed, I will take a step back and analyze the things that I need to do first and then go from there. I no longer have a problem admitting that I sometimes need extra help, or need to take personal time for myself.

6. What helps you stay positive when you are at your worst?

I think looking back on where I have come from to where I am now, helps me stay positive and stay on track. Surrounding myself with positive people, taking personal time to recharge and asking for help when I need it, are all things that help me stay positive and healthy.

7. Is there a person who has a major influence in your life? If so, how have they impacted you?

Though I don’t have a very close relationship with my mom, she has always been a huge motivation in my life. When I was younger I remember seeing a light in her that many people see in me. Since her light no longer shines every day, I try to shine mine extra bright for her.

8. What keeps you inspired to stay positive, and motivated every day?

The people around me help me stay on track and remain positive. I know I have many younger girls that I teach and work with that look up to me and they are a constant reminder of how my positivity can inspire and help other people around me. Sometimes simply telling my story and being open about my past struggles are enough to make a difference.

25 going on 20?


The reason I started this blog was to make fun of the 20s, specifically the mid 20s. To make fun of the laughable experiences we all go through and be able to ensure others that the crazy thoughts, events and life lessons that you may think you’re the only one experiencing, we are all going through. I wanted to write about the awkward hook ups, the nights I drank too much tequila and the times I laughed and made memories with my best friends. It’s crazy to think that since I started this blog I have experienced all those things and more. I’ve had my heart broken, I’ve laughed so hard I almost peed my pants and I’ve cried tears of joy and sadness. The one thing I’ve learnt about the mid 20s is that no one experiences it the same. I could pick out three 25 year olds and we could all be in COMPLETELY different points in our lives. I know 25 year olds that are married with kids. I know 25 year olds (like myself) that are still battling out the uni life. And I know 25 year olds that are still just trying to figure it all out. Every one of these stages is completely, and perectly okay to be at. There’s no longer a need in our society to compare our lives to others. Have kids and get married when you’re ready, not because you feel like you have to. Take as long as you want in university and enjoy every second of the laid back uni life. And search as long as you want till you find yourself, your passion and where you want to be in life. 

Especially this summer, I learnt to take a second and enjoy where I am in life. Enjoy the moments I may never get again. And to stop wishing I had someone else’s, because where I’m at right now, is not bad at all. 🙂

A