Social Media or Social Suicide?

This past semester I took a class on Pop Culture. This class forced me to take a step back and really analyze our generation’s society. It is crazy to think that people are now able to create careers off of social media.  YouTube, Instagram.. many of the people I follow will make more money posting one video or picture than I have made in my entire life. Crazy. Absolutely crazy. Social media scares me, because I know I’ve been in situations myself, or seen the people around me do things just for the ‘likes’ and the gratification.  We’re all brave enough to post pictures, facts, knowledge, and insight of our lives to the unknown world. It’s kind of creepy and liberating at the same time.  People I have never talked to or met in my life know what I did yesterday or what I had for breakfast this morning.  The one thing people often forget when they are idolizing Instagram personalities is everything that people post is filtered. People wait for the perfect moment to take a picture, in the perfect setting, then choose the perfect filter to make this perfect photo look perfectly flawless. No one dares to post their raw, unfiltered, unperfect lives because who wants to see that right? In saying this all, I’m not trying to point fingers because when I was younger I learned that when you point a finger you have four pointing back at you. I am just as guilty as anyone.

I urged everyone to remember that not every perfect moment needs to be captured on camera.  That your worth is never based on the amounts of likes you get on it. And that not everything is as perfect behind the filters.

Bed head

In my 25 years, I’ve slept in 5 different beds and called 5 different places home. Despite this point, some late nights when my mind wonders I picture myself back in my first bed. I can even smell the scent of my old room, a scent of familiarity. In my moments of uncertainty, I find my mind wondering there, desperately grasping for the feeling of comfort. I think we all have a place like this, whether it’s an actual location or a person. The warmth this special place has given us strength in our moments of weakness. Helps reminds us that everything will be okay and that we’ll make it through.

Tonight I’m thankful for my bed.

25 THINGS I’VE LEARNT IN MY 25 YEARS :)

1) You need to love yourself first.  Fall utterly and undyingly in love with your imperfections and your little twerks. Finally realize that all the things you used to hate about yourself are the things that make you you and are the things that your future partner will (should**) love most about you.

2) Sleep. You need it. I don’t care how much your late teens and early 20s tricked you into thinking you can survive off minimal sleep because you really can’t. Your body and sanity will thank you for those nightly 8 hours.
LIFE HACK: naps will become your best friend.

3) Get it right, get it tight. Seriously, though. Get in shape. Take care of your body. Give it the fuel and exercise it needs because believe me, it only gets harder as you get older, so get in shape while you can and make it a habit and a priority.

4) Spend money where you need to, and save where you can.  I’ve learnt this one the hard way.  Invest in a good mattress, in good shoes and other staple items.  Think twice about spending the extra money on luxury items.

5) Spend as much time with your grandparents as you can. Sure they’re goofy and might smell a little funny but believe me, you’ll be thankful later on. I regret every day the time I could have spent with my grandparents that I didn’t.

6) SUNSCREEN. Sure a tan is fabulous, but wrinkles aren’t. Also on that same note, PLEASE skip the tanning beds.

7) Take care of your skin. Moisturize. You’re skin will be with you forever.

8) Understand now that the friends you have, you might not have forever. It’s a sad but true reality of growing up. Some people grow together, some grow away from each other. That’s life loves.

9) Find an outlet. Something that you do just for yourself. It can be indulging in reality TV, drawing, running, anything really. Just find some way to relief your stress and tension.

10) STOP texting and driving. I’m 100% positive that the person you’re texting or the Instagram posts your creeping can wait and if they can’t, please pull over.

11) Never try to change yourself for anyone. No one is worth the stress of not feeling good enough.

12) Put down that darn phone. Live and enjoy life events without ruining the moment by taking a picture.

13) Learn how to say ‘NO’. This is important.

14) Remember that the opinions of other people say more about them, than they do about you.

15) Taking mental health days are totally okay, don’t be embarrassed to do this.

16) Forgive yourself. Something that is a lot easier said than done. But everyone makes mistakes. We’re all only human.

17) STOP talking poorly about other people. Stop commenting negatively about people’s appearance, stop judging people on their lives, just stop. It doesn’t benefit you at all, it just makes you look shady.

18) Don’t spend your time on someone that wouldn’t spend their time on you. This counts towards relationships, friends, coworkers etc. You’ll just end up with regret.

19) Travel! 🙂 You all knew this one was coming. And by travel, I mean out of your comfort zone, not just to resort in Mexico. Go backpacking, meet new people, realize what it’s like to not have 24/7 Wifi and clean water. You’ll come home appreciating everything you have even more.

20) Say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’. Manners never go out of style.

21) Spend time with your parents. Tell them thank you for everything they do. Make sure they know how much you appreciate them.

22) If you have something to say, say it. Let those feelings flow. Tell the people you love that you love them. Tell that stranger they look nice because I guarantee it’ll make their day. If you like someone, tell them. If something’s bothering you, say it. BUT remember #17.

23) Age is only a number. I have to tell myself this a lot. You’re never ‘too old’ to do something, to love someone, to start new. I mean 25 is the new 19 right?

24) If you ever find yourself doing something you don’t love, STOP. Change. Don’t waste yourself doing something you dread doing every day. No one deserves that.

25) YOLO.

hahaha Just kidding. My last lesson I’ve learnt is to be thankful. I don’t care how bad your day is, you can always find one thing to be thankful for.

🙂