2018.

2018. Where has the time gone (cliche, I know)..

I am excited about this year. 2018, the year of me. That’s what I’m self-proclaiming it as.

I’m going to keep this short and simple. If I write down my intentions for this year, then I am not the only one who is holding me accountable for keeping them.

I keep saying it, but I think a lot of changes are coming for me this year. Whether that means: location, travel, love, career or anything else. I’m taking it all in with open arms.

The first thing I really want to work on is consistency, in all or most aspects of my life.  My trainer and mentor actually brought this up to me recently. He said I need to be more consistent in my training, but then I started thinking about and implying it to all aspects of my life. Yes, I really want to become more consistent with my training again, because it is a great release for me, but I also want to be more consistent in my friendships, in answering texts and emails, in keeping my living environment clean and tidy, in making and sticking to a budget.. etc. I think consistency will greatly improve my mental health along with other aspects of my life.

The next thing I want to work on is my work/life balance. I drowned myself in work this year. My bank account is grateful, but my social life and mental state are not so much. I want to be able to be happy and feel fulfilled in both aspects of my life without feeling the demand of financial pressures or the guilt of not being social enough.

Thirdly, I want to start putting myself first. I love that I love helping people, but everyone deserves to be selfish every once in a while. I want to stop letting men, employees, family members and friends walk all over me and taking advantage of me. I want to say ‘No’ more often, take more ‘me days’ and give to myself as much as I give to others.

Apologize for less. This one may sound a little weird. But I put blame on myself for absolutely everything. Break-ups= my fault. Bad days at work= my fault. Etc. Etc. Etc. Not everything is my fault, and not everything is in my control. I need to remember that I can’t control other people’s reactions, moods or feelings. Not everything is my fault.

Lastly, I want to take big steps in my career, whether that means applying for my master’s program, moving somewhere to get more experience, continuing to apply for full-time positions, whatever it takes! #adulting

I find people (including myself) often focus on the negative events that happen during the year: break-ups, accidents, deaths etc. Everyone heals and handles these things differently, but once you take a step back and take a look at the entire year as a whole, so many beautiful things also have happened. Focus on those things. Grow. Move on. Celebrate your acheivements. 2017 is only as good as you make it out to be.

Cheers loves. I hope this year brings you all everything you want and need in life.
🙂

-A

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My Story is me.

Everyone has a story and your story is whatever you want to make it. Your story is what is important to you. It’s different situations and different circumstances. It’s battles that have been won and lost.  Your story is you.  My question is: is it important to tell your story?

I read in a book that by telling your story you are creating yourself.  Some people can’t feel like they’ve lived without telling their story.

This topic for me sparked when I was asked in one of my last ever university classes, what brought me to study sociology.  Luckily, I was very last, so I had lots of time to think about my story or alter what I was going to say depending on what other people were saying. By the time it got to me, my story had changed a lot then how I would have told it if I was first. Surprisingly, my story got longer and more in-depth as I listened to others people’s stories.

In my story, I talked a lot about being lost, not knowing what I wanted to do in my life, and stumbling upon studying sociology out of desperation.  I still stand true to this.  If sociology has done anything for me, it has taught me about life and about people. I analyze situations more and understand how and why people act or react in the ways they do. I understand pop culture and climate change, social structures and how each individual is shaped through experiences. I also have a better understanding of why people are the way they are and with this knowledge, I have been able to grow and excel in many different jobs and relationships.

I see a lot of people on social media criticizing others that talk about their past experiences or issues. People will often say they’re doing it for attention or the want for pity and even as I grow and share more about myself, I often feel that people think this about me. BUT, I have finally come to the point in my life that I no longer care what people think.  There will forever be people that are going to talk negatively about you, even if you’re the nicest person in the world. People love talking. People get jealous. People like to criticize anything out of the norm. And people hate change. That’s life.

I think transparency is extremely important for me. I used to say I thought it was important for everyone, but I remembered that not everyone wants to share their stories. For me, I think sharing my struggles, triumphs, losses, victories and everything in between in an important part of who I am. I like connecting with people in this way. I like being able to say: “Me too, I was there, I went through that too, I’ve also felt that”.. etc. I focus so much on this openness and find it to be important because as I was growing up, I felt multiple times like I was the only one. I felt alone with my thoughts and feelings and didn’t have anyone to connect to. I remember the first time I met someone who suffered through similar events as me and the extreme sense of comfort, understanding and release of emotion it gave me. I finally felt like I wasn’t alone. I wasn’t wrong in having the thoughts I did or doing the things I did in the past. If just one person stumbles upon this blog and feels that, then I feel like I’ve done something right.

If you are reading this, I want to remember a few things. You deserve to be happy. Don’t stop until you wake up each day and are excited to live your life. Your past doesn’t define you. Learn from it, and continue to grow and move on. You are not alone, no matter what the voice in your head tells you. People love and care about you, you are here for a reason, please go out and find that reason!

Lots of love and positive thoughts!
Ash

It’s All About The Vibes.

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I am such a huge believer that you get back what you put into our universe. If you’re a happy, positive person, those are the people and vibes you’re going to attract to yourself.  I’m not saying that life isn’t going to happen, that you’re not going to have a seizure, total your car and crash your bike all in a week (true story). But with keeping your chin up, and smiling through the rough patches, you will attract the people in your life that belong to be there. People that will help get through the negative times. And the people that will always push you to be the best version of yourself.

I am constantly praised for being a positive person by people around me, or sometimes by people I don’t even know. Thank you to everyone who reaches out to me. Motivating and putting smiles on people’s faces is all I can ask for in life and I hope I can continue to do this.

Have a great week everyone!!

-A

Monday Motivation

Here’s a short video with a great message for your week.  I think we all tend to let the little things in life build up without even knowing it. Let’s all take a second this week to let go of all the little stresses in life, all the unneeded things that have been unknowingly building up and see how much weight we feel is lifted from our shoulders!

Watch Here! 🙂

Have a great week loves!
A.