If I wanted this post to be sweet and simple, my answer would solely be ‘no’. No, in the eyes of our society, girls cannot date the same way like boys.
But obviously, you’re not here for the short and simple answer. You’re here to read me write myself in circles.
First off, I should explain what I mean by: date like a boy. By this I mean multiple girls at the same time, balancing feelings between them all and somehow having them all not know about each other. In no way am I saying all boys date like this, or that this is wrong. People can live and date however they want, I’m just here to speak my side.
I’m not even good at dating one person, let alone multiple people at once. Yes, I’ve texted more than one boy and yes, I’ve tried out the whole Tinder dating app but how on Earth do people have time (or energy) to hang out with multiple people. I don’t even have time to do my laundry or cook proper meals, let alone make myself look socially acceptable to go on a date every night of the week.
I also can’t have feelings for multiple people at once. This could 100% be something that’s just me, but I know I have friends that have voiced the same thing. Being attracted to someone and having feelings for someone, is two totally different things. I am attracted to multiple people, but when I have feelings for someone (true feelings), they are only for that one person. The difference here, between the way I date and the way some boys date, could be that I date for feelings, not for attraction. Of course having an attraction for the person you’re dating is important, but feelings are what build and make relationships last.
I also think society doesn’t think girls should date multiple people. When guys do it, they’re “playing the field”, “testing the waters”, or “wheeling the ladies”. When girls do it, we’re “slutty”, “whores”, or “damaged goods”. This is definitely a double standard and concept that has been stuck for many, many years.
Ladies, if you want to date multiple people, do your thang, don’t let people judge or label you for it.
Boys, if you’re dating multiple girls, make sure they know you’re doing that.