Our Earth Angel

I haven’t written in awhile because in all seriousness I didn’t think the things I wanted to write about were really worth it.  The recent passing of a friend put a lot of things into realization. Put life into a new perspective for not only myself but for a lot of people around me.

This past week my mind has been running in over time. Trying to understand why someone so full of energy and life could be taken at such a young age. Trying to understand the stages of grieving and how people do it differently. Trying to be there for my best friend but also allow myself to grieve and find the understanding I needed.

Amanda was the most beautiful human you could have ever met. Anyone who met her knows this. She lit up every room she walked into and left every room a better place. In a short 26 years, she changed more lives than some people do in 80. I was lucky to make some unforgettable memories with her, that I will always hold close to my heart.

Her aunt explained her in the best way possible. She called her an “Earth Angel”. An Earth Angel is someone who is sent to Earth to make the world a better place.  To help others, spread kindness and to make a difference by shining light and love on everyone around them. This is exactly what she did. This is exactly what Amanda was, and unfortunately, Earth Angels don’t often live for very long. They live fast, they make the world better place and they leave, leaving a positive impact behind.

Amanda will forever be missed by many. Her smile and shining light will continue to live on through all those who met and knew her.

In Loving Memory of Amanda.

 

#LettersToNoOne

Dear Whoever Needs to Read This,

I want you to know you are not alone. No matter how alone in this world you may feel sometimes, or how much you might have convinced yourself that no one cares, you have people who care about you.

I want you to know that you will make it through this. Even through the times that you feel like you’re drowning in a never ending hole of darkness. You will see the light again, and when you do, you will appreciate the light more than you did before.

I want you to know that you will find someone who loves you one day. You might have to go through a few to find someone who really appreciates you as you are, but when you do, it will be worth the wait.

I want you to know that all the hard work will pay off. Keep pushing. Never give up on yourself. And never let anyone tell you your dreams are too big.

I want you to know that the mistakes you make, we’ve all made. Learn from them and move past them. Don’t let the past ruin your future.

And lastly, I want you to know you are perfectly perfect the way you are. All the little things that make you different, the little things that you might not like about yourself, are the things that make you, you. Please make sure you surround yourself with people that never let you forget this.

#ALetterFromMeToYou

**UnderstandUs‘s newest campaign will be launching in May. This year’s campaign is called ‘Letters To No One’. I can’t wait for you all to see it!

🙂

A

Opinions

I read a quote the other day, and it talked about the need for alone time. The need to be by one’s self to refresh, digest and formulate opinions. In our society, we are constantly influenced by those around us, even when we think we aren’t. People’s opinions are constantly filling our heads through social media forms like, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, also through news sources on television and in the news paper and then there’s also advertisements that are pushed in front of our faces all the time. Everywhere we look, people are trying to convince us to think, act, and be a certain way.

Now more than ever alone time crucial to build our own thoughts and opinions. In this society, do you think it’s possible to build our own opinions without being influenced by those around us? With our cellphones being glued to our hands and thoughts always being pushed into our heads, the thought of unbiased opinions sounds like a hard concept to grasp.

I believe that in life there is never just one way to look at something, even though sometimes our society tries to convince us otherwise. I challenge each of you to form your own opinions on things. If something doesn’t seem right or correct to you, dare to think outside of the box. Sit in silence every once in a while. Let your thoughts form on their own. Decide if  you agree or disagree with what is being taught and told to you. It’s people in this world that choose to create their own ideas. thoughts and opinions that make a difference.  Remember though, to be open to all the opinions around you as well. If you are expecting people to be willing and open to your opinions, then you must treat their’s the same.

Have a great weekend loves!

Ash

 

Happy One Year to US!

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I can’t believe that I started this small blog a year ago already.

I got the inspiration from my friend, Brittany Lauren.  She has the most wonderful fashion/lifestyle blog that you should definitely check out if you’re into that style of blogging. 

I didn’t know what I wanted to do with this blog, or where I wanted to take it, I just knew I wanted it to be real.  I wanted other twenty-somethings to know that the struggles they are going through, or the emotions they are feeling, are perfectly fine and they’re not the only ones going through them. I originally wanted to write this as an anonymous blog, because I was scared of the backlash I might get on my opinions and thoughts on certain things. Turns out either 1) people don’t care as much I thought, 2) my opinions really aren’t as crazy as I thought, or 3) not as many people read my blog as I like to convince myself do. haha

It’s funny how much peace this blog has brought me, which I never thought would happen. So many wonderful people have reached out to me, a couple doors have been opened and better yet, I might have even helped a few people. If I’ve learnt anything in my twenty-whatever years of life, people love to know they are not alone. People love to find someone or something they can relate to and even if there’s only one person who feels that way about something I’ve posted or written, at least I’ve helped that one person.

I am a work in progress, just like all of you are and none of us are alone in our thoughts or battles.

Cheers to one year, and hopefully more to come! Thank you for all who follow me on my journey or who have reached out to me. You are the ones that keep my smile bright!

🙂

Lastly, I just wanted to share some of my personal favourite posts from the past year and some of my most viewed ones:
M.I.A.
Time
Piece by piece..
Interview with an 11th Grader
Understand Us
Social Media or Social Suicide?
Waves
25 THINGS I’VE LEARNT IN MY 25 YEARS 🙂

-A

M.I.A.

Do you ever wish you could just disappear for a while, take a quick time-out from life?
If so, that’s exactly how I’ve been feeling as of lately.

After I got back from my quick break to Toronto, I was feeling refreshed and inspired. What a beautiful city, filled with so many amazing people, cultures, works of art and more. The trip was nothing like I expected it to be, but it ended up being exactly what I needed.

Coming home, reality hit me hard. I felt disorganised, behind in school (after only missing one day), actually more uninspired, lonely, broken, hurt.. etc etc. Anxiety hit me, demons came back and all I wanted to do is hide in my sheet-less bed.

You can always tell when I’m going through a rough time because I don’t write. If I did write, maybe it would actually help, but all I want to do is hide from life, my friends, my responsibilities, just life in general.

If you saw me in real life, if you saw my facebook or my social media, you would have no idea I’m going through a hard time because society doesn’t want us to appear as weak, hurt, sad or defeated. Over this year a lot of things defeated me, beat me down and every once in a while I let these things get the best of me. I try so hard to be seen as this happy, positive ball of energy. I like when people compliment me for always having a smile on my face and always laughing. I like when people turn to me for advice or confide in me.  But sometimes, I then am left feeling I have no one to turn to because I don’t want people to see this vulnerable/weaker/sadder side of me.

In reality, every single one of us has these moments. Even celebrities, even the world’s best sports players, teachers, professors, doctors.. everyone. I should never feel ashamed of my feelings, for having to ask for help, or for taking the time to stay in bed for a couple hours if I need to. I shouldn’t have to feel guilty and none of you should either.

Life is not easy. Life is never as perfect as Instagram or social media makes it look, but every bump in the road makes you stronger. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or to tell someone you’re having a bad day. Never be embarrassed about how you feel.

Great article to help understand what anxiety is like: Anxiety Is An Invalid Excuse.

-A

2016-it was only as bad as you make it.

Over and over again, 2016 has been deemed the worst year ever.  At first, I thought it was only me after suffering from another seizure, losing my licence for another 6 months and having my heart stomped on by one too many boys, but supposedly I was wrong. Over and over again, funny memes, articles, tweets, Instagrams and lengthy facebook statuses, have named 2016 overall just bad.  The more people continue to say this, the more I turn around and look at my 2016.  Was it really as bad as I think? Was it really the worst year EVER?

I wanted to start off this coming year by writing a lengthy post about my resolutions and plan to create a better me in 2017.  I wanted to have inspirational quotes, to also help inspire all you to do the same.  You know what, while doing so, not only did I find some Ashley worthy quotes, I came to the realization that 2016 wasn’t all bad and I don’t really need a full makeover.

This year I learnt a lot about myself, a whole lot in fact. I learnt that saying ‘no’ to people won’t make them hate you.  I learnt that asking for help is perfectly okay. I learnt that no matter what, the people that want to be in your life, will be, no matter how busy you both are. I grew stronger friendships with so many life changing people. I told people my story and changed many lives by doing so and I shared my feelings, saving myself and the other people a lot of time if the feelings were not reciprocated. Good things happened in 2016 and bad things happened, but I think it’s important to learn your lessons from the bad things and concentrate on building on the good things.

Going into 2017, I have a lot I want to accomplish. I want to focus on myself and my dreams, and let the rest fall into place around me.  I read a quote the other day, that I really liked:

“When you are torn between 2 choices, always pick the one that will make the best story ” 

Elephant Journal

When I travel, this is how my mind thinks, and this year I want to start living my day to day life like this as well.

I also found this video that really made me think about how much we share on social media, and I think is another thing I am going to work on in 2017.

3 Things to Keep Private

The last thing I want to share is some positive things that happened in the world in 2016. We live in a society that concentrates on negativity. Our newspapers and news stations are filled with tragedies, deaths, disasters etc. and people often forget that good things happen every day and good people still exist.

Dear world, I wasn’t all bad. Signed, 2016 (Thank you to my friend Kyle for sharing this!)

I hope you all find happiness, love and adventure in your 2017s and you are able to look back on this past year and remember the good things that happened and learn from the bad things.
So much love and positive vibes to you all!

🙂

Ash

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**really cool idea to help you concentrate on the positive things that happen in your life throughout the year! 🙂